I would never say I am a superficial person. I would always say I appreciate everyone in their own uniqueness. But when it comes to dating, we all have a tendency to be a little superficial. Whether its hair color, eye color, height or weight we always have a “thing” we are concerned on when it comes to dating. For me, it’s always been height.
I can’t help it really, I am on the tall side for a girl. 5’8…and with my beloved heels almost 6′. So naturally I lean towards guys that are taller as well.
Date #3 was a former co-worker that reached out to me shortly after I started my 50 first dates experiment. And yes, he is shorter than me.
We met up for drinks and dinner at a bar in North Scottsdale, Yard House. We had good conversation, laughed a lot. Prior to us meeting up, he knew I was a little self conscious about our height difference and assured me it didn’t bother him. He actually encouraged me to wear heels (I opted for flats instead, but I liked his confidence).
Throughout our date he was very complimentary about many things in my life. My career, my personality and my looks. I sat there saying thank you and returning many of his compliments as he too has a great outlook on life. At one point in our evening he brought up the big pink elephant in the room…. our height difference. He told me he is who he is, I am who I am. Physically we can’t change too much, but we can control our outlooks on life, the people we come across and the things that make us happy.
I certainly agreed to all of that, but remained a little nervous about how “big” I feel when we stood up next to one another. The longer we enjoyed our evening though, I realized that it really didn’t matter or stop me from laughing and smiling throughout the night.
After our night was over I realized I had a great time and in the end the height difference didn’t matter too much. He appreciated me for who I am, who I was and who I will continue to grow to be as a person.
I have always had a hard time allowing people to compliment me on my looks, my physical features and those little quarks I hate; that somehow others find endearing. While looking back on Date #3, I can certainly say this is something I need to work on. I am sure many of you out there will agree that our insecurities (whether it be height, weight or that weird freckle on your nose) are sometimes the hardest for you to see at positive attributes.
My new resolution after Date #3 is to stand tall be proud and wear whatever shoes I want no matter who I am going out with. If it doesn’t bother them, why should it bother me? Hello gorgeous 3″ red heels… you will be getting a lot more use in the near future!